About reFrame™
We're breaking generational cycles of dysfunction through dignity-first communication.
Our Mission
To break generational cycles of dysfunctional communication by making dignity-first communication the default.
Our Vision
reFrame™ will become the communication layer of human interaction—digital and in-person. Every text, email, and conversation enriched with real-time communication intelligence.
Why it matters: Children don't inherit beliefs—they inherit nervous systems. The first 10 years of observed communication patterns become their blueprint for life. reFrame™ helps parents model the communication they want their children to inherit.
Built on the R³ Framework™
The foundation of dignity-first communication
REGULATED
Strong feelings are safe. Pause when heated. Name emotions without weaponizing them.
“Being calm is not being passive. It is being responsible.”
RESPECTFUL
Dignity intact even in disagreement. Separate person from position. No character assassination.
“If dignity is lost, nothing meaningful can be built.”
REPAIRABLE
Mistakes don’t end relationships. Apologize without defensiveness. Prioritize reconnection.
“Mistakes are inevitable. Repair is a choice.”
Introducing RFD Technology
Our proprietary, patent-pending bidirectional detection system. The only AI that protects you from both what you send AND what you receive. Built on 40+ years of Gottman Institute research.
Inbound Protection
RFD analyzes the context (what they said to you) and detects if you’re being manipulated, gaslit, or abused.
When you paste their message, RFD checks for gaslighting, manipulation, stonewalling. If detected, you’ll see a warning that validates your perception and suggests boundary-setting responses.
Outbound Protection
RFD catches toxic patterns in YOUR message before you send it—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, threats.
Based on 40+ years of Gottman research, RFD detects patterns that predict relationship failure with 90%+ accuracy. Get educational warnings explaining why it’s harmful.
Why It Matters
People in toxic relationships can’t see patterns clearly. Gaslighting victims doubt their reality. RFD becomes their validation.
“RFD helped me see I was being gaslit for 3 years. I left. I’m safe now. This tool saved my life.” — Early Beta User
The Two-Way RFD (Patent Pending) Difference
Other tools check your grammar or tone.
RFD protects you from toxic patterns—both what you send AND what you receive.
We don't just help you communicate better. We help you recognize when you're being manipulated.
The Problem We're Solving
The first 10 years of a person's life shape their nervous system, emotional responses, and relationship patterns for decades to come. During this critical window, children are observing, absorbing, and internalizing how the adults around them handle conflict, stress, and disagreement.
And here's what most people don't realize: Children don't inherit beliefs — they inherit nervous systems.
When parents model reactive, dignity-threatening communication, children learn that conflict equals danger. This cycle repeats across generations, creating polarization, broken families, and a society that can't disagree without dehumanizing.
“How we feel and act is not a function of what others are saying or doing but a function of the story we tell ourselves about what they are saying or doing.”
Research confirms what many intuitively know: avoiding conflict actually damages relationships MORE than addressing it constructively. Yet most people lack the skills to navigate difficult conversations when emotions run high.
The R³ Framework™ provides those skills — not through lectures, but through practice in the moments that matter most.
Why R³™ Works
The R³ Framework™ isn't just theory — it's a practical system that addresses the three core failures in dysfunctional communication:
REGULATED stops the reactive cycle that escalates conflict.
RESPECTFUL protects dignity so people can actually hear each other.
REPAIRABLE ensures mistakes don't become permanent damage.
Together, these three pillars create communication worth inheriting.
How It Works
reFrame™ is an AI-powered communication coach that helps you live the R³ Framework™ in real conversations.
Type your raw, emotional message. We don't judge. We understand you're hurt, angry, or frustrated.
RFD analyzes for toxic patterns. Before reframing, our Red Flag Detection technology checks for harmful communication patterns. If found, you'll see an educational warning explaining why the pattern is damaging and how to express yourself more constructively.
Get a reframed version. Your feelings are preserved, but expressed in a way that embodies R³™ — regulated emotion, respectful tone, and repairable connection.
Learn over time. With each use, you internalize the R³™ patterns. RFD warnings teach you what to avoid. The tool becomes less necessary as the framework becomes natural.
Think of reFrame™ as training wheels for R³™ communication. RFD is your safety net that teaches you what not to do. Eventually, you won't need us—and that's the goal.
The Generational Impact
When children repeatedly see R³™ modeled — calm during conflict, respect under pressure, and repair after harm — their baseline shifts:
From fear to curiosity. Conflict becomes data, not danger.
From dominance to dialogue. Winning matters less than understanding.
From control to connection. Relationships deepen through disagreement, not despite it.
They grow up and parent the same way, lead the same way, and disagree without enemies.
“That's how humanity changes — quietly, locally, repeatedly, through the R³ Framework™.”
Research-Backed Approach
The R³ Framework™ and RFD are grounded in decades of research:
Gottman Institute Research (40+ years): RFD is built on Dr. John Gottman's identification of “The Four Horsemen” — communication patterns (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) that predict relationship failure with 90%+ accuracy.
Conflict Resolution Research (NIH): Avoiding conflict forces people to suppress needs, harming relationships more than constructive engagement.
Psychological Safety (Harvard): Teams with high psychological safety show better performance and lower conflict — the essence of RESPECTFUL communication.
Observational Learning (Bandura): Children learn behaviors by watching parents model them, not through lectures — which is why modeling R³™ matters.
Repair Research (Gottman): Successful relationships aren't conflict-free; they're repair-rich — the heart of REPAIRABLE.
We're not inventing new psychology. We're making proven principles accessible through the R³ Framework™ and RFD technology in the moments you need them most.
Life Is About Relationships
This simple truth guides everything we build. Your relationships with your partner, children, family, friends, and colleagues shape the quality of your life.
When we improve how we communicate through R³™ — staying REGULATED, being RESPECTFUL, and ensuring everything is REPAIRABLE — and when RFD helps us catch toxic patterns before they cause damage, we don't just solve problems.
We deepen connections. That's what reFrame™ is for.
Ready to Practice R³™?
Start using the R³ Framework™ and RFD technology today. Model communication worth inheriting.
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