Type your raw, honest thoughts below. Whether you're hurt, angry, frustrated, or confused — we'll help you express it in a way that builds connection instead of conflict. For best results, tell us who you're talking to and provide context about what they said.
reFrame is built for people who keep walking on eggshells in their own conversations. People who feel crazy after every text exchange. People who catch themselves second-guessing what they remember, or what they said, or what just happened. The patterns making you feel that way have names. reFrame names them.
reFrame detects the communication patterns that shape every conversation. The harmful ones research has linked to relationship damage: contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, gaslighting, and others. And the healthy ones that build connection: repair attempts, validation, taking responsibility, and others. It names them in plain language and explains what each one is doing in the specific message you paste. The point is not to label the person who sent it or the person who is about to send it. The point is to make the pattern visible, so what's happening in the conversation stops being something that just happens to you, or through you.
Most communication tools only check what you are about to send. reFrame checks both directions. Paste a message someone sent you, and reFrame will tell you what pattern is in it. Paste a draft you are about to send, and reFrame will catch what your reader will receive.
Every reframed message is built on three questions, informed by established relationship science:
The three questions are the R³ Framework. They are the filter every reframed message passes through. They work before you send a hard message and they work for understanding a hard message you just received.
reFrame does not store your messages by default at any tier. No account is required to try it. Nothing you paste leaves the analysis layer. This is a deliberate design choice. The category we work in includes domestic abuse survivors and people in custody disputes. Stored data in this category is a safety risk, not a feature. We treat it that way.