Most relationships don't die in one bad moment.
They die in patterns nobody named.
You feel it before you can explain it. The same fight with different words. The text that makes your stomach drop and you can't say why. The conversation you replay at 3 AM looking for the place it broke.
That's where reFrame™ meets you.
reFrame is the X-ray of communication. We show you the pattern underneath what's being said. We don't replace your therapist. We don't take sides. We don't diagnose. We name what's there so you can decide what to do next.
Sign in once. Your messages are never stored by default.
The standard underneath everything
Before we built a product, we built a standard. We call it R³ Framework™.
Three questions you can ask in any moment, with anyone, before you respond:
Regulated. Do I have control right now?
Respectful. Does this honor the other person's dignity?
Repairable. Can I come back from this?
R³ is a behavioral standard for human interaction. Communication is the first place we can measure it, because text is data, and patterns like contempt, gaslighting, and stonewalling are detectable there. The standard applies anywhere a person makes a choice about how to treat another person.
reFrame is the first product that proves R³ works. There will be more.
Six moments. One standard.
We built reFrame around the moments where the patterns actually run your life. Different surface for each moment. Same R³ underneath.
1. When you have something to say
reFrame the Message
Paste what you're about to send. We catch the patterns you can't see when you're inside the moment. Contempt disguised as a joke. Defensiveness wearing the suit of “I just want to make sure.” Stonewalling that calls itself self-care.
Paste what you just received. We name what was actually said. Gaslighting that made you question your own memory. Manipulation that arrived as concern. The pattern that's been making your stomach drop for years and you finally have a word for it.
Same form. Two textareas. One pipeline. Two-way detection because the people on your phone are sending and receiving at the same time, and so are you.
Across 15 relationships: partner, parent, teen, boss, co-parent, friend, ex, and the rest of the people who live on your phone.
2. When you need to read the room
reFrame the Situation
For the moment that wasn't a single message. The blow-up at the dinner table. The meeting that went sideways. The phone call you can't stop replaying.
Describe what happened. Everyone involved. What they said. What you said. Be honest about your part. That's where the insight is.
You'll see the pattern map (who did what), the cycle (what kept it stuck), what healthy would have looked like for everyone in the room, and the dynamic underneath the surface.
This is the moment most communication tools stop at. We start here.
3. When you need to make sense of the whole relationship
Conversation reFrame
The deepest read we offer.
Paste five to fifteen screenshots from one relationship. We read the relationship, not the moment. You get the named dynamic, the cycle that keeps it stuck, the moments where repair was possible and got missed, what the relationship is asking for that isn't landing, and what healthy would have looked like.
Situation reads the moment. Conversation reads the relationship.
This is the surface professionals have been asking us to build. It's also the one users describe as the moment something finally clicked. Use it when the relationship matters enough to look at honestly.
4. When you're preparing for the hard one
The Rehearsal (live)·The Hot Seat (coming soon)
The Rehearsal is for the conversation you haven't had yet but know is coming. The one with your partner about money. The one with your kid about the failing class. The one with your boss about the promotion. The one where you don't know how to start.
You describe the situation. We help you find your opening. You can try a version, see how it might land, try again. The conversation that used to play in your head at 2 AM now happens somewhere it can be useful.
The Hot Seat is coming. Same situation context, but the persona pushes back. We find the turn where your R³ starts to crack. Then we show you exactly where.
5. When you're building the skill
Practice
Three drills. The standard becomes a reflex.
Name It. Short scenarios. Identify the pattern. Build the recognition that makes the rest of the product feel obvious.
reFrame It.Given a real toxic message, rewrite it in your own words so the truth survives but the contempt doesn't.
Own It.Write what you actually feel, no filter, just to get it out. We don't send it. We help you find the version you would.
Pattern recognition isn't a feature. It's the muscle the whole thing runs on.
6. When you're reflecting
The Mirror
The patterns you keep catching. The patterns you keep using. The shift over time.
You'll also get Coaching Cards (small reads that point to where the work is, without lecturing) and a Weekly Summary if you want it.
We're not trying to be in your pocket forever. We're trying to make ourselves unnecessary. The Mirror is how you see that working.
What's underneath
Safety is built in, not bolted on.
Some patterns aren't communication problems. They're safety problems. reFrame runs deterministic safety checks before any AI sees your message. Crisis language gets caught and routed in under 100 milliseconds, with zero AI calls. The detection that matters most can't depend on a chatbot waking up.
We detect. We don't diagnose. If you're in a moment where you need a person, we'll point you to one.
Your words stay yours.
Your messages are never stored by default. We don't sell anything to anyone.
We tell the truth, even when it's about you.
Other AI tools will help you write a more manipulative message. We won't. And we'll tell you when you're the one running the pattern. Sometimes the user is wrong. The point of a mirror isn't to flatter you.
Three doors
You can become a Member for $0/month and get a real start: 15 Message reFrames, 2 Situations, and 1 Conversation reFrame every month, plus the Practice drills and the Mirror dashboard.
When you want more, settle in as a Local at $19.99/month.
When you want reFrame across every relationship that lives on your phone, make reFrame Home at $29.99/month, with no per-feature caps.
Full breakdown on the pricing page.
The pattern is the problem, not the person. The work doesn't end with you. Children inherit nervous systems, not beliefs. The way you handle the next hard conversation is the blueprint your kid will use for the rest of their life.
That's the bet. reFrame is the X-ray. R³ is the standard. The work is yours.
Over time you won't need us, but we'll always be here when you do.