Most relationships don't die in one bad moment.
They die in patterns nobody named.
You feel it before you can explain it, the same fight in different words, the text that makes your stomach drop and you can't say why.
reFrame is the X-ray of communication. It shows you the pattern underneath what's being said. We don't take sides. We don't diagnose. We name what's there, so you can decide what's next.
Sign in once. Your messages are never stored by default.
See the pattern
underneath the words.
Paste a message and reFrame reads what's actually being said, the pattern you can't see from inside the moment. Try a few:
reFrame detects 17 patterns across 15 relationships. We detect. We don't diagnose.
Before we built a product,
we built a standard: R³
Three questions you can ask in any moment, with anyone, before you respond.
Regulated
Do I have control right now?
Respectful
Does this honor the other person’s dignity?
Repairable
Can I come back from this?
R³ is a behavioral standard for human interaction. Communication is the first place we can measure it, because text is data, and patterns like contempt, gaslighting, and stonewalling are detectable there. reFrame is the first product that proves R³ works. There will be more.
The patterns show up in six moments.
Pick the one you're in.
A different surface for each moment. The same R³ underneath. Choose a moment to see how it works.
reFrame the Message
Paste what you’re about to send, and we catch what you can’t see from inside the moment. Contempt disguised as a joke. Stonewalling that calls itself self-care.
Paste what you just received, and we name what was actually said. The gaslighting that made you question your own memory. The manipulation that arrived as concern.
Same form, two textareas, one pipeline. Everyone on your phone is sending and receiving at once, and so are you.
Works across 15 relationships: partner, parent, teen, boss, co-parent, friend, ex, and the rest.
Three things we won't compromise.
Safety is built in, not bolted on.
Some patterns are safety problems, not communication problems. reFrame runs deterministic safety checks before any AI sees your message. Crisis language is caught and routed in under 100 milliseconds, with zero AI calls. We detect. We don’t diagnose, and if you need a person, we point you to one.
Your words stay yours.
Your messages are never stored by default. We don’t sell anything to anyone.
We tell the truth, even when it’s about you.
Other tools help you write a more manipulative message. We won’t. And we’ll tell you when you’re the one running the pattern. The point of a mirror isn’t to flatter you.
Start free. Go as deep as you need.
A real start when you become a Member for $0/month: 15 Message reFrames, 2 Situations, and 1 Conversation reFrame every month, plus Practice drills and the Mirror dashboard.
For when you want more, settle in as a Local for $19.99/month and reFrame the moments as they come, without watching the meter.
For every relationship that lives on your phone, make reFrame Home for $39.99/month, with no per-feature caps.
Full breakdown on the pricing page.
The pattern is the problem, not the person. And the work doesn't end with you. Children inherit nervous systems, not beliefs. The way you handle the next hard conversation is the blueprint your kid will use for the rest of their life.
That's the bet. reFrame is the X-ray. R³ is the standard. The work is yours.
Over time you won't need us, but we'll always be here when you do.