Is This Message Toxic?
Paste a message you received and get an instant, objective analysis of the communication patterns present. Powered by AI trained on research-validated detection criteria.
What This Tool Detects
Our analyzer uses Communication Pattern Intelligence (CPI) to identify 10 toxic communication patterns based on decades of relationship research.
Criticism
Character attacks disguised as feedback — "You always..." or "You never..."
Contempt
Mockery, sarcasm, superiority, or name-calling. The #1 predictor of relationship failure.
Defensiveness
Excuse-making, counter-attacking, or playing victim to avoid accountability.
Stonewalling
Emotional withdrawal, silent treatment, or refusal to engage.
Gaslighting
Denying your reality, questioning your memory, or making you doubt yourself.
Manipulation
Guilt-tripping, emotional blackmail, or using vulnerabilities against you.
Threats
Intimidation, abandonment threats, or ultimatums designed to control.
Passive Aggression
Backhanded compliments, sarcastic compliance, or indirect hostility.
Coercion
Removing your agency through pressure or exploiting power imbalances.
Blackmail
Leveraging information or threatening exposure to control behavior.
Why Detecting Toxic Patterns Matters
Toxic communication patterns erode relationships from the inside out. Research by Dr. John Gottman shows that the sustained presence of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling can predict relationship failure with over 90% accuracy.
But here's the challenge: when you're in the middle of it, these patterns can be hard to see. Gaslighting literally works by making you doubt your own perception. Manipulation disguises itself as concern. Passive aggression hides behind plausible deniability.
That's why objective detection matters. This tool doesn't take sides — it tells the truth about what's in the message. If toxic patterns are present, you deserve to know. If the message is healthy, you deserve that validation too.
Frequently Asked Questions
How does the free toxic text analyzer work?▾
Paste a message you received into the analyzer. Our AI, powered by Communication Pattern Intelligence (CPI), scans for 10 toxic communication patterns including gaslighting, manipulation, contempt, criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, passive aggression, threats, coercion, and blackmail. You get an objective assessment with specific patterns highlighted and explained.
Is my message stored or shared?▾
No. Your message is analyzed and immediately discarded. We never store the text you paste into the analyzer. Your privacy is our default — not an option you have to enable.
What toxic communication patterns does this tool detect?▾
The analyzer detects Gottman's Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) plus gaslighting, manipulation, threats/intimidation, passive aggression, coercion, and blackmail/extortion. These patterns are research-validated predictors of relationship harm.
Can this tool tell me if I'm being gaslighted?▾
Yes. The analyzer specifically detects gaslighting patterns including reality denial ("That never happened"), memory questioning ("You're imagining things"), feeling dismissal ("You're too sensitive"), and blame reversal. If gaslighting is detected, you'll see exactly which parts of the message contain these patterns.
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